A few useful notes:
• Listen when your children talk. Listening to your children tells them that you think they're important and that
you're interested in what they have to say.
• Make your children feel safe. Comfort them when they're scared. Show them you've taken steps to protect
• Provide order in their lives. Keep a regular schedule of meals, naps and bedtimes. If you have to change the
schedule, tell them about the changes ahead of time.
• Praise your children. When your children learn something new or behave well, tell them you're proud of them.
• Criticize the behavior, not the child. When your child makes a mistake, don't say,
"You were bad." Instead, explain what the child did wrong. For example, say:"Running into the street without
looking isn't safe." Then tell the child what to do
instead: "First, look both ways for cars."
• Be consistent. Your rules don't have to be the same ones other parents have, but they do need to be clear
and consistent. (Consistent means the rules are the same
all the time.) If two parents are raising a child, both need to use the same rules. Also,make sure baby sitters and
relatives know, and follow, your family rules.
Children want most is your attention. Bad behavior is usually their way of getting your attention.
There are many ways to get good parenting advice. Sign up for parenting classes. Read parenting books or
magazines. Talk to your family doctor or a counselor.
Don't be embarrassed to ask.